Anonymous said: Hello, hmm, Idk if i disturb you but i really need an advice. I have a quite ok life, good family, so-so school life, but the fact that friends i have in college are not many, they're nice to me, but there's always a distance between us. And then the online friends, i mean I tried to talk to them, but some ignored me. I'm really confused, sometimes I just wanna know what I've done wrong. I mean people always ignore me. What should I do now?
hey! it’s not a bother at all! and i understand exactly what you’re talking about, because making close friends is a lot harder in college than in high school. i was really lonely my first semester but it gets better! it seems like you have good potential close friends, it’s just that taking that next step is kind of hard. like asking them to hang out and things like that instead of just when you see each other on campus and put the friendship past the stage of only talking about how brutal the last test was onto more personal things. it’s really difficult being acquaintance-zoned (i try to be funny sometimes, don’t judge me ^^) but i think it’s like that on both ends. you have to show you’re interested in actually interested in being more than hall buddies you only ever say hi to when you pass by. all you have to really do is ask them to go for coffee or to study with you. even texting them is a step. and you’ve done nothing wrong babe, i didn’t have that many close online friends for long time, but now there are people i talk to so regularly here it’s kind of unhealthy. i’m sure they don’t mean to ignore you. it’s easy to be forgetful and lazy with messages. for instance, i never ever intentionally ignore a message, but sometimes it happens without me noticing. all you have to do is keep being persistent, and people will come to you naturally. don’t be so hard on yourself ^^